I follow a lot of dancers on twitter. It’s interesting to see real time reactions to situations then hear or read about them later. If funny at times to see dancers and customer complain about the same basic thing but from complete different points of view. One of these complaining points recently is about false promises. A dancer unleashed a rather vehement series of tweets about some jerk customer who flashed a bunch of cash, but didn’t spend in penny on her. This reminded me of a few customer rants where they complained about dancers who promised a lot more than they delivered.
There is certain expectations when you go into a strip club. The first is that the entertainers will take their clothes off and customers will tip them. From there the options continue, there will probably be tables dances, lap dances, etc etc. Dancer or anybody else selling something you approach each customer trying to figure out how much can you make versus how much its going to cost you. How much for how much. In my work world it’s usually time and travel. There are customers in any business that are so difficult to deal with. They require so much attention and buy so little they aren’t worth the time.
If you think there is going to be a big payoff you are much more likely to hang in there longer. It’s the sales paradox, how much time and money are you willing to spend in order to make the sale? This makes the dancer vulnerable to manipulation. If some guy is flashing money and looks like he going to spend it she'll invest her time on him. From the customer side if the dancer acts like she'll do more he just spends more is pretty much the same deal. A false promise of a big payout to get a short term take away.
Some times it just a power trip on the customers part. They just like manipulating the dancer. It's actually pretty pathetic. If you think waving a bunch of money so you can slam some dancer, telling her too bad she's not worth it, the you should probably be spending your money on therapy, not strippers. Dancer’s who promise customers anything just to get their money isn’t any better. It’s deception in both cases.
It’s all to easy to forget that there is a person on the other side of the transaction. I’m not a walking wallet. Treat me like one and go somewhere else. Recently a dancer I’ve never met before sat down with me. With ten minutes she told me that we were going to be “best friends” and we should make plans for dinner. Yeah, right. You’ve known me for 600 seconds, I’m old enough to be your father, and you want to got out to dinner together. I’m not really buying this and I’m really not buying any dances from you.